First, she whimpered about her new home in Dunleer being a "Dungeon."
Momma Hervey (Lady Bristol) wrote back to tell her to appreciate what she had and if it was so bad to do something about it! She recommended picking out some new wallpaper.
Lady Bristol, having gone through the ordeal of labor seven times over, once again had little sympathy for the over-dramatization of the process and asked Bess to reflect more on the joys of motherhood rather than complain about the toils of the labor.
After a month of laying in, Bess was re-released to the world and all she could do was roll her eyes at it. First she remarked on how she found all babies "much alike" and then bemoaned how her son was "dependent" on her. Not being a mother myself, I noticed two-month-olds tend to do that. One has to wonder how much mothering Bess was actually doing seeing as she had a wet nurse.
It wasn't only Bess' son which bored her but now Dublin seemed just as odious as Dunleer. While many contemporary accounts rave about Dublin's ability to be a thoroughly diverting metropolis Bess wrote, "je m'ennuie à la mort" [I am bored to death]. Besides finding the city "dirty" and "dull" she found the women "ill educated & indelicate." But perhaps Bess' real beef with Dublin was the fact that her flirting wasn't reciprocated. According to Bess the men were "too much engrossed by Politicks to engage much in society..."
|Lady Bristol was quick to tell Bess to stop complaining|
When Bess was three months pregnant with her son, Augustus she had enough of her boring life and ran away. She then met up with a Mr. Churchill and attempted absconding to Scotland with him. One has to wonder if Bess was so bored by Dublin if Scotland would have been much better? In any case she never would reach the amusements of Scotland for her husband caught her in York.
The year was now 1782 and Bess was staying in Bath with her sister, Mary. Both ladies were poor, separated from their husbands, and ostracized from public (I bet Dunleer wasn't looking too bad anymore!). It was here where Bess was to be introduced to the Duke and Duchess of Devonshire who befriended the two fallen women. However, Bess only too easily left her sister in the dust when the Devonshires invited her to accompany them out of Bath. Bess' sob story of her lost children had pulled on their heartstrings more than Mary's, whose child had been allowed to stay with her after the separation.
The truth of the matter is, Bess only really experienced being a "teen mom," for by the time she was in her twenties her husband had custody of her two sons, whom she wouldn't see for another fourteen years. Her other children (Caroline and Clifford) were illegitimate offspring of the Duke and were also raised more by others than by Bess. Bess would find that she appreciated being a mother only when the ability was taken away from her.